Whether you have been trying to get pregnant or whether you have suffered one loss or many, all of us spend a lot of time just waiting. We all want to know: What do I do while I’m waiting?
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Establish your identity in Christ alone. Your identity is not found in being a wife or in motherhood. Being a wife and a being a mother are just roles that you perform.
Philippians 3:7-16 – 7 But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. 8 Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ 9 and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith— 10 that I may know him and the power of his resurrection, and may share his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11 that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead. 12 Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. 15 Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you. 16 Only let us hold true to what we have attained.
2. Allow God to grow you. Often, God wants to prepare us before He gives us a role to perform. Just like desiring a husband didn’t make you an incredible wife, desiring a child will not make you an amazing mother. If you want to be a great mother, you don’t have to wait until you have children. Work now on becoming the mom that you want to be someday.
Psalm 37:3-7a – Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. 4 Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. 5 Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. 6 He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. 7 Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.
3. Give in to God’s best. We need to be willing to give up what we think is best, for God’s best. This requires a willingness to sacrifice our dreams and desires for the future on the altar of obedience. It is not an easy thing to do; However, God never requires us to give something to Him that He didn’t first give to us. Read the story of Abraham’s willingness to sacrifice his only son in obedience to God. (Genesis 22) His faith is amazing!
Genesis 22:12-14 – He said, “Do not lay your hand on the boy or do anything to him, for now I know that you fear God, seeing you have not withheld your son, your only son, from me.” 13 And Abraham lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, behind him was a ram, caught in a thicket by his horns. And Abraham went and took the ram and offered it up as a burnt offering instead of his son. 14 So Abraham called the name of that place, “The Lord will provide”; as it is said to this day, “On the mount of the Lord it shall be provided.”
If there were an easier, better, or more painless way for God to accomplish His will in your life, He would certainly do it! Trust this and find joy in the waiting.