When tragedy strikes, our brains immediately go to work. We want to fix it. We want to make it stop or make the trouble go away. We beginning formulating ideas and plans. We start the “if” process, and lay out all the possible solutions. We try to be stronger than we really are, and put on a “happy face” for those around us. We try to say all of the “spiritual” things that we are expected to say, and we try to find the good in the middle of the mess.
Obviously, there is planning to do, during any trial. And although, we certainly need to learn to be thankful during the difficult times, and we absolutely need to learn to trust completely in our Heavenly Father, often, our heart and our head do not agree. We are too scared to voice what we really feel, not only to those around us, but also to God. We feel like somehow we are less of a Christian, if we show any negative emotions or responses.
Scriptures support so many of those feelings that we try to avoid. We have to remember that it is not the emotion that is the sin. It is how we respond to the emotion that can be wrong. God gave us emotions as a release. Sadness is a way for our bodies to cope with difficult circumstances. Here are some verses that give us some of these emotions and how to deal with them.
- Matthew 11:28 – Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
- Isaiah 40:29-31 – He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
Solution: Seek God. Allow Him to do the work to give you rest.
- Psalm 56:3 – What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee.
- Psalm 112:7 – He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the Lord.
- I Peter 3:14,15,17 – But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.
Solution: Fix your heart on the truth. Know the reasons you trust in God.
- Psalm 56:8 – Thou tellest my wanderings: put thou my tears into thy bottle: are they not in thy book?
- Psalm 116:8 – For thou hast delivered my soul from death, mine eyes from tears, and my feet from falling.
- Psalm 126:5 – They that sow in tears shall reap in joy.
Solution: Tears are a normal part of grieving. “This too shall pass.”
- Mark 9:24 – And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief.
- Matthew 21:21 – Jesus answered and said unto them, Verily I say unto you, If ye have faith, and doubt not, ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree, but also if ye shall say unto this mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; it shall be done.
- 1 Timothy 2:8 – I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.
Solution: Ask God to help give you faith. Pray! Tell God how you really feel. He knows your heart anyhow.
- Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
- Proverbs 15:18 – A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.
- Proverbs 16:32 – He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.
- Proverbs 19:11 – The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.
- Ephesians 4:26 – Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.
Solution: Think before you speak. Take time to contemplate and put things into perspective. Resolve your anger. Do not let it control you.
- Lack of wisdom:
- Job 12:13 – With him is wisdom and strength, he hath counsel and understanding.
- Psalm 119:98 – Thou through thy commandments hast made me wiser than mine enemies: for they are ever with me.
- Proverbs 1:5 – A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels.
- Proverbs 8:33 – Hear instruction, and be wise, and refuse it not.
Solution: Read Scripture. Pray. Seek Godly counsel.
- Job 36:5 – Behold, God is mighty, and despiseth not any: he is mighty in strength and wisdom.
- Psalm 18:32 – It is God that girdeth me with strength, and maketh my way perfect.
- Psalm 19:14 – Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.
- Psalm 27:14 – Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.
- Psalm 59:9 – Because of his strength will I wait upon thee: for God is my defense.
Solution: Meditate on truth. Wait on the Lord to strengthen you in His time.
Conclusion: You are not God. If you can learn to let God be God, then, you will be free to just be you.
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Original material by Holly M. Besser, ©2015. May not be used or re-printed without permission. bp65p01-12-15