Who Says?

  •  “AGAIN?!?! Are you really going to put yourself through this again? How many times are you going to get pregnant, and suffer?”
  •  “Are you sure you want to try for another child already? Isn’t it a little soon to do this again? Why don’t you wait a little while?”
  •  “You are high risk for another miscarriage. This pregnancy is likely to end in loss. Don’t get your hopes up.”
  •  “Really? You aren’t going to breastfeed your baby? You just aren’t trying hard enough. Don’t you want the best for your baby?”
  •   Vaccinate? (enough said)

Most of us have heard similar things from people in our lives, whether it be our spouse, a family member or friend, or even a doctor. As a matter of fact, many of us have probably said these things to ourselves at some point.

I’d like to challenge you to consider following these statements with the simple question, “Who says?”

Unless your answer is “God,” then, these words are simply words – nothing more. Certainly God sends people into our lives or uses the Holy Spirit to give us counsel and wisdom, but we have been told in Scripture:

Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God… 1 John 4:1a

We often allow ourselves to become enslaved to opinions of others, frozen by fears from our past experiences, and swayed by a lack of faith. We forget that our God delights in the impossible. He finds pleasure in doing what we cannot imagine. As children of God, we are called to freedom, not bondage. We are free to hope for the incredible, believe in things we cannot see, and trust in a God, Who holds the entire world in His hands.

For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

For whatever overcomes a person, to that he is enslaved. 2 Peter 2:19b

For you were called to freedom, brothers. Galatians 5:13a

Live as people who are free. For this is a gracious thing, when, mindful of God, one endures sorrows while suffering unjustly. I Peter 2:16a, 19

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. 2 Corinthians 3:17

You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed. John 8:32, 36

So, how do we know what the next right thing is? How do we know we are making the right decision and not just being foolish? May I be so bold to suggest that based on Scripture, if we are delighting in the Lord, following His ways to the best of our human ability, keeping a clean heart, and desiring His will in our lives, that we cannot make a wrong choice? God desires that we know His will for us. (Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. Ephesians 5:17) He doesn’t want us to wonder, to struggle, or to question each choice we make. He wants us to be sure of ourselves – because of HIM and of Who HE is. I truly believe that if we are doing what He has asked of us, He will lead us in the right path. You can plan and prepare and even start on a particular path, but if it’s not where He wants you, He will move you. There is nothing – yes, nothing – we can ever do or fail to do that will thwart His plan for our life. (Again, I need to stress that we must keep our heart’s desire fixed on Him and Him alone.)

Now we have received not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might understand the things freely given us by God. 1 Corinthians 2:12

Trust in the Lord, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. Psalm 37:3-5

He fulfills the desire of those who fear him; he also hears their cry and saves them. Psalm 145:19

The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong, for the Lord upholds his hand. Psalm 37:23-24

The law of his God is in his heart; his steps do not slip. Psalm 37:31

The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9

A man’s steps are from the Lord; how then can man understand his way? Proverbs 20:24

I know, O Lord, that the way of man is not in himself, that it is not in man who walks to direct his steps. Jeremiah 10:23

So, are you trying to decide when to start trying for another baby? Are you newly pregnant and worried about the outcome? Are you a new mother with some really difficult decisions to make? Stop being anxious. Take the next step. Do the next right thing with confidence in the One able to keep you from falling. Just do it!!

“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:25-34

Original material by Holly M. Besser, ©2013.  May not be used or re-printed without permission.  bp51p02-06-14

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