I have been asked countless times over my past several pregnancies if there comes a time that I will “feel better” about the health and safety of my baby. The question is usually stated in one of the following ways:
Will you feel more comfortable about this pregnancy after you reach the second trimester?
How far along were you with your losses? Will you feel better after that latest point is reached with this one?
Will your mind be more at ease after you have an ultrasound?
Will you feel better when you can feel the baby moving?
Etc, Etc, Etc…
Some milestones definitely have a way of calming nerves; However, I don’t believe that there is an invisible “fence” that once you cross over it, leaves you fearless and at total peace about the welfare of your child. Not even birth can deliver a guarantee of life and health.
I do believe that there comes a time that the balance of fear versus peace tends to shift. As we fill our minds and hearts with the truth of God’s sovereignty, power, and love, we begin to understand better how to “walk by faith and not by sight.” (2 Corinthians 5:7)
Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. Hebrews 11:1
Assurance – A statement or indication that inspires confidence; a guarantee or pledge; Freedom from doubt; certainty
Hope – A wish or desire accompanied by confident expectation of its fulfillment; One that is a source of or reason for hope; The theological virtue defined as the desire and search for a future good, difficult but not impossible to attain with God’s help; Trust; confidence.
What are we to hope in/for?
The steadfast love of God:
Behold, the eye of the Lord is on those who fear him, on those who hope in his steadfast love. Psalm 33:18
In God Himself:
Why are you cast down, O my soul, and why are you in turmoil within me? Hope in God; for I shall again praise him, my salvation and my God. Psalm 42:11
In God’s Word(s):
You are my hiding place and my shield; I hope in your word. Psalm 119:114
In eternal life and redemption:
If in Christ we have hope in this life only, we are of all people most to be pitied. 1 Corinthians 15:19
And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience. Romans 8:23-25
Conviction – a fixed or firmly held belief, opinion; the state of being convinced; a mind-set, not an action.
We have not seen Christ, and yet, we are called to believe with total conviction that He exists and that He loves us and desires the very best for us. This is the very foundation for hoping with assurance.
Jesus said to him, “Have you believed because you have seen me? Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.” John 20:29
But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him. Hebrews 11:6 (kjv)
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for you, who by God’s power are being guarded through faith for a salvation ready to be revealed in the last time. In this you rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials, so that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ. Though you have not seen him, you love him. Though you do not now see him, you believe in him and rejoice with joy that is inexpressible and filled with glory, obtaining the outcome of your faith, the salvation of your souls. I Peter 1:3-9
So, when people ask you those questions about the “fear fence,” be confident in your answer to them: “God’s perfect love trumps my fear every time!”
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love. 1 John 4:18
Original material by Holly M. Besser, ©2013. May not be used or re-printed without permission. bp42p07-14-13