Stage 6 – Reconstruction/Working Through

The Seven Stages of Grief:

In this stage we work through all the emotions surrounding the upward turn – whether fear, guilt or even the sense of losing the “security” that grief, in an odd way, has brought us. This stage has a lot to do with “re-programming” our belief system. What we believe determines how we will respond to our circumstances.

A Biblical Response:

This “re-programming” cannot be done in our own wisdom. Obviously, if we had all the answers, we would not be dealing with these issues. This is where we cry out to God for counsel and guidance. Mentors, pastors, counselors, and life coaches are often great resources for this stage. Sometimes, talking through and tentatively trying to find where we now fit into life, can only be reached by wise, godly counsel and accountability. We must be careful to be discerning, when seeking counsel.

Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11:14

While we do have the ability within the realms of will and choice, to create our own new thing, this is not what God intends. God intends to make a new thing in His way, in His time, arising from our circumstances. It’s up to us to ask Him to show us what He intends for our lives as a result of what we have been through.

He has made everything beautiful in its time. Ecclesiastes 3:11a

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5-6

Original material by Melissa J Carswell, MA, BCCC.  Holly M Besser.  Perfect Joy Ministries ©2012. May not be used or re-printed without permission.  bsbp008p9-20-12

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