God answered Solomon, “Because this was in your heart, and you have not asked for possessions, wealth, honor, or the life of those who hate you, and have not even asked for long life, but have asked for wisdom and knowledge for yourself that you may govern my people over whom I have made you king, wisdom and knowledge are granted to you. I will also give you riches, possessions, and honor, such as none of the kings had who were before you, and none after you shall have the like.”
2 Chronicles 1:11-12
“What next?” is a very common thought for those in the midst of infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, or other childloss. We wonder what the next step should be in this journey for a family. Do we try, yet again? How long should we wait before we try again? Is it worth trying again, or are we just setting ourselves up for more pain? When is enough truly enough? Most of us would say that we want God’s will to be accomplished in our lives, but what does that mean? How do we know what God wants us to do.
God may not write it in the clouds, but He has written it in His Word. We usually spend so much time looking around – either at what other people have or are experiencing, or at what other people think or say – that we forget to look up. The Bible calls this, “the blind leading the blind.”
Luke 6:39 – He also told them a parable: “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit?”
Instead, let us take a look at what it means to know God’s will and how we can have the wisdom of our Heavenly Father, in order to make these difficult decisions. He promises that we can know what we should do.
Isaiah 42:16 – And I will lead the blind in a way that they do not know, in paths that they have not known I will guide them. I will turn the darkness before them into light, the rough places into level ground. These are the things I do, and I do not forsake them.
1. How do we obtain the wisdom of God?
James 1:4-6 – And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind.
Ask in faith. God promises it, and that settles it! Believe it and claim this gift.
2. How do we know that this wisdom is of God?
James 3:13-18 – Who is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
If the thing you desire to do is based on bitterness, jealousy, and selfishness, you can be sure that it is not of God. James actually says that it is “demonic.” Our own way is dangerous. God’s wisdom is pure, peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial, and sincere. If the thing you desire to do meets each of these qualifications, you can be sure that God is in it. If you are unsure of what these words mean, here are some synonyms:
Pure: wholesome, uncontaminated
Peaceable: calm, quiet, compliant
Gentle: temperate, kind, tender
Open to reason: willing to listen to rational views
Merciful: sympathetic, forgiving, gracious, compassionate
Good fruits: high-quality results
Impartial: unbiased, unprejudiced, objective
Sincere: genuine, honest, truthful
John 17:17 – Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth.