2 Corinthians 4:15-18 – For all things are for your sakes, that the abundant grace might through the thanksgiving of many redound to the glory of God. For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day. For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal.
1. Nothing on this earth stays the same forever; however, Jesus never changes.
Hebrews 13:8 – Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.
2. God in his Sovereignty is able to do whatever he deems without our approval. The pain and suffering is not easy, but watching God work is amazing.
Psalm 34:10 – The young lions suffer want and hunger; but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.
“There is no attribute more comforting to His children than that of God’s Sovereignty. Under the most adverse circumstances, in the most severe trials, they believe that Sovereignty has ordained their afflictions, that Sovereignty overrules them, and that Sovereignty will sanctify them all. There is nothing for which the children ought more earnestly to contend than the doctrine of their Master over all creation–the Kingship of God over all the works of His own hands–the Throne of God and His right to sit upon that Throne. On the other hand, there is no doctrine more hated by worldings, no truth of which they have made such a football, as the great, stupendous, but yet most certain doctrine of the Sovereignty of the infinite Jehovah. Men will allow God to be everywhere except on His throne. They will allow Him to be in His workshop to fashion worlds and make stars. They will allow Him to be in His almonry to dispense His alms and bestow His bounties. They will allow Him to sustain the earth and bear up the pillars thereof, or light the lamps of heaven, or rule the waves of the ever-moving ocean; but when God ascends His throne, His creatures then gnash their teeth, and we proclaim an enthroned God, and His right to do as He wills with His own, to dispose of His creatures as He thinks well, without consulting them in the matter; then it is that we are hissed and execrated, and then it is that men turn a deaf ear to us, for God on His throne is not the God they love. But it is God upon the throne that we love to preach. It is God upon His throne whom we trust.’’ – Charles Spurgeon
3. No matter how difficult, awful, or painful the situation appears, take time to stop and remember the absolute truth: “God is in control.”
Psalm 37:23-24 – The steps of a man are established by the Lord, when he delights in his way; though he fall, he shall not be cast headlong, for the Lord upholds his hand.
4. Begin to live as close to normal, as soon as possible. Learn to live with the new reality, without allowing it to keep you from doing what you should be doing.
II Samuel 12:15-23 – And the Lord afflicted the child that Uriah’s wife bore to David, and he became sick. 16 David therefore sought God on behalf of the child. And David fasted and went in and lay all night on the ground. 17 And the elders of his house stood beside him, to raise him from the ground, but he would not, nor did he eat food with them. 18 On the seventh day the child died. And the servants of David were afraid to tell him that the child was dead, for they said, “Behold, while the child was yet alive, we spoke to him, and he did not listen to us. How then can we say to him the child is dead? He may do himself some harm.” 19 But when David saw that his servants were whispering together, David understood that the child was dead. And David said to his servants, “Is the child dead?” They said, “He is dead.” 20 Then David arose from the earth and washed and anointed himself and changed his clothes. And he went into the house of the Lord and worshiped. He then went to his own house. And when he asked, they set food before him, and he ate. 21 Then his servants said to him, “What is this thing that you have done? You fasted and wept for the child while he was alive; but when the child died, you arose and ate food.” 22 He said, “While the child was still alive, I fasted and wept, for I said, ‘Who knows whether the Lord will be gracious to me, that the child may live?’ 23 But now he is dead. Why should I fast? Can I bring him back again? I shall go to him, but he will not return to me.”
5. Be courteous and kind but do not allow people to tell you that you shouldn’t feel bad. Grieving is a God-given emotion. However, we must be sure that we learn to control it, and not let it control us.
Psalm 30:5b – Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning.
6. Do not deny the help of others. They may have been moved of the Lord to help. Allow God to work in their hearts and lives as well.
Romans 12:15 – Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.
7. PRAY! Ask the Lord for courage to make it through the discouragements and fears. Count your blessings. You will be surprised to see that how God is growing you is really worth the struggle. You can find joy in your trials.
John 16:24 – Until now you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be full.
These points were adapted from an outline by Ned Seachrist. Used with permission.
Original material by Holly M. Besser, ©2012. May not be used or re-printed without permission.